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This piece concludes a brief series on BDSM and extreme kink. Please be sure to read parts one heretwo hereand three here. Fetishism can be anything, really. Or at least anything that can be sexualized. Your fetish may, generally, be someone who is overweight just as easily as specifically a stick-thin Russian model over the age of 30 but below 40 with hair dyed green and cut into a bob. Typically though, fetishism is a fixation on a thing, not a human or body type. Clinically speaking, a festishist is someone who cannot be aroused without the fetish item, or totem.
A fetish is the translocation of desire, fixating on the object so intensely that it becomes the catalyst for desire simply by seeing, smelling, or hearing it in a Pavlovian response. Whether they are successful in this is an amusing question to entertain, but their burgers are not very good and their business continues to grow. You figure it out. Depending on the degree of fixation, a fetish may not require a complementary component or human. We are speaking here of the human element. A shoe, even to someone who has a shoe fetish, is still a shoe. It has utilitarian functions.
It may even be well deed and an appealing statement in fashion. Most fetishists who fixate on shoes still require someone to wear the shoe. But there are instances where that is not true — in rare instances, some festishists are only able to able to become aroused by the presence of the totem.
Let me personalize this. Many sex therapists continue to believe, as Freud and Jung did, that extreme kink fixation is derived from prior experience or exposure. None of our desires truly exist apart from the context of our lives, or appear without reason. Studies of fetishism were done by Alfred Binet in where he theorized that fetishes were acquired through association.
A boy who experiences an erection at the moment he sees a an adult step out of the shower will, from then on, associate the two as being related — the erection and the shower or drenched nakedness. It is rare that water alone, or the sound of a shower alone, will be able to elicit the intensity of sexual response necessary to achieve orgasm, but rare does not mean impossible. If this seems a curious discrepancy or a failure of self-reporting, we might look to the fluency with which women talk about sex and the reluctance of men to explain and contextualize their sexual behavior.
But I would suggest that those who are able to recognize their desires are at a greater advantage overall because they are more able and presumably more conscious of how to communicate those desires to any relational partners they might have. Which is to say, although clown makeup and balloons are nowhere close to my own interests, I would be willing to entertain them in a sexual activity if my partner communicated them to me.
Erotic Extremities — Anyone who has freeze-framed a Ryan Gosling movie just to take a long, hard look at his abs has already begun to dabble with erotic extremities. When fetishes are localized to the human body — say, a foot fetish, or acrotomophilia sexual interest in amputeesyou have an example of an erotic extremity. A physical extreme kink — a foot, the color of hair or, freckles, extreme kink about someone based on race — that is infused with fetishistic attributes falls under this category.
For straight men, the most commonly talked about are butts and breasts. Dan Scottisummarizing a rather old study on physical preferencesprovides good insights. If you live and die by a pair of big boobs, you also probably read a lot of sports magazines. Which, more or less, shocks nobody. In the study at hand, a large breast preference was correlated highly with a need for exhibitionism.
Nevertheless, in social situations, these types of guys usually have no problem exchanging witty banter and holding their own, by themselves… Men from upper-class families generally share a taste in smaller physiques… Small breasts, and small bodies in general, have always been flaunted by models in the high-fashion industry — so this could play a factor in their vision of beauty. As stated in the study conducted by Wiggins et. The need for large buttocks was also highly related to an extreme kink need for achievement, as well.
According to Eric M. For instance, where you grow up, personally, also has an effect on what your preference in [sexual partners] will be. In other words, no one is born kinky. Our kinks, like rivers and streams, will find a way and develop a course which links up the entire psychosexual response of the body for arousal. Cosplay can be very arousing because we are adopting new identities and powers. But, as I said in a post for this series, many of these kinks appear in our daily lives.
Think of the last week. How did you feel about yourself when you threw on your tennis shoes and jogging shorts? Fix that memory in your mind. Where you were. How you felt. Why you picked those articles out, and not the shirt next to it in the closet. Now, having that idea fixed in your mind, think about the ritual of getting dressed for work. The way your buttons felt in your fingers. The tightening of the laces on your dress shoes. The color of those shoes. The way your necklace hung, gently touching your neckline and chest.
Which one made you feel powerful? Love it. Little secret: I love flipping through fashion magazines. I imagine many people do — the brief and fleeting fantasy of wearing a well cut and well deed piece of clothing is stimulates the imagination.
Dressing rooms all across the world today were filled with people who enjoyed the slip of fibers against their skin. Some admitted it was an erotic experience. And of those individuals, some bought those articles of clothing because of the way it made them feel — powerful, courageous, sexy. Erotic experiences with garments goes back a long way, but in the Nineteenth Century, researchers began to catalogue a high of individuals who eroticized satin, extreme kink, fur, hair like pigtails or beardsrubber, linen, etc.
The materials differed, but so did how they were cut. Gender Play — There are times when traditional gender roles can be turned around for pretty profound effect. Inthe woman I was dating had started to communicate that she wanted to settle down and get married. My family, at the time, owned a resale store in Louisiana and we visited.
Coincidentally, she wanted to try on a wedding dress that was in the store and that was the last road trip we ever took before we broke up. Before all of that, though, I had found two superhero capes at a thrift store and wanted us to roleplay with them in the bedroom. It was very evident we were not on the same extreme kink.
Especially when I said I wanted to explore things. Because we were young and had been raised in a pretty religious town, her first thought was that I was gay. I was kind of taken aback, especially given how well I thought she knew me.
Later, I told a therapist I think I just meant I wanted to be desired. I wanted things that I was not getting and knew, somewhere in there, that I would never get in that relationship. Very often, it is about the sex. But sometimes playing with gender in the bedroom is about emotional and mental reassurance or something deeply personal. Once they find themselves in a safe and committed relationship though, men are more likely to drop the projections and show who they really are. And, yes. Sometimes, guys want to be dressed up like a woman, degraded and emasculated. It can even be a beautiful thing, with the right partner.
I have a pink pair of pants that I absolutely love. I have another pair that are canary yellow. I like wearing colorful scarves — because they look nice and accurate an otherwise colorless ensemble. They are about accepting who I am as much as rejecting those cultural norms about how men are supposed to dress and act.
How much more profound and intense are those feelings in the bedroom? The same is true for women. I am always fielding questions from women who want to know how to introduce the idea of pegging, topping, or other forms of gender-based kink to their sexual partners. To desire fiercely.
To consume. To pursue. Body Fluids — Naturally, this is something that needs to be addressed because it is a very scary kink for people unfamiliar with the world of kink. After all, your sexual play involves… pee and poop? They are not statistically prevalent in practical sexual repertoire. The thought of cupping or kissing a butt is very enjoyable to me — as it is for many people. So, if we begin there, we can start to ratchet it up. Touch their anus? Kiss it? Lick it? Insert a finger? Smell our fingers after that? Taste them? One of my favorite things to talk about in the world of kink is this idea of stages or steps.
No one jumps in, feet first, to vinyl suits and collars and husky Russian voices with whips. Instead, every sexual act is part of a scale, a spectrum, a degree and if you find extreme kink you are okay with touching a butt but not kissing it? Good for you that you know your limits! Never go any further with a sexual act than you are capable.
When I was very, very young I remember my parents laughing about something on the news. Apparently, Prince Charles had written a love letter to then-mistress Camilla Parker-Bowles where he said he wished he was a tampon so he could extreme kink inside of her and absorb her most intimate fluids.Extreme kink
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